Category Archives: Communication

Embracing Failure – Carol Dweck

“Don’t praise intelligence or talent, praise the process.” Carol

Praising process creates a growth mindset rather than a fixed mindset.

Fascinating, talk. Use the word – “yet” with children.

If you’re not struggling with something you’re not growing and not learning.

Interesting how this lady is communicating biblical principles, without mentioning the Bible at all.

MINDSET – THE BOOK OVERVIEW

Communication

Communication.

What an amazing idea this word represents.

  • ”  an act or instance of transmitting

  • 2 a :  information transmitted or conveyed b :  a verbal or written message

  • 3 a :  a process by which information is exchanged between individuals through a common system of symbols, signs, or behavior <the function of pheromones in insect communication>; also :  exchange of information b :  personal rapport <a lack of communication between old and young persons>

  • 4 plural a :  a system (as of telephones) for transmitting or exchanging information b :  a system of routes for moving troops, supplies, and vehicles c :  personnel engaged in transmitting or exchanging information

  • 5 plural but sing or plural in constr a :  a technique for expressing ideas effectively (as in speech) b :  the technology of the transmission of information (as by print or telecommunication)”

    From Merriam Webster

In the absence of communication, thoughts, perceptions and judgements – right ones or wrong ones form.  It’s amazing to me how often communication is in-effective, non-existent or completely misunderstood.  It happens every day.

I think the biggest challenge is between men and women. Two humans wired similarly, yet, completely different.  Different focuses. Different perspective. Different ideas. Different dreams. The list goes on.

Repeatedly, through-out society we see misunderstanding happen again and again.  No matter what the intention seems to be good, bad or ugly, in the absence of communication, poor judgement, condemnation, fear, anxiety, worry, and lies can form that are completely unfounded.  It seems the accuser of the brethren surfs on the the verbal ques, miss ques, etc and fills in the gaps of the unknown with a totally bogus story-line. Unfortunately, this tactic works  occurs over and over and over again.

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, “One of the biggest, if not the biggest issues with the fall (that came as a result of sin and disconnectedness to YHWH) is the impurity and brokenness of communication.” Perfect communication and understanding fell by the way side completely.  Think about how many wars could have been prevented, marriages or businesses could have stayed together??? Countless. All because of communication issues.

Fear came in where transparency used to be.  With the shed blood and resurrection of Jesus Christ, we now can come boldly to the throne of grace.  We are restored.  If we can do that with the Most High, why not come boldly one to another?  Matthew 5 and 18 both talk about going to the one who apposes you, to work it out.  Another scripture comes to mind, “as much as it depends upon you live at peace with all men.” Two people seeking to follow Jesus, ought to come to peaceable conclusions in any situation.  Who knows, maybe it’s just me?  Maybe I need to raise my standard and everyone else already speaks boldly the truth in their heart, transparently in compassion for one another or maybe people are simply afraid of confrontation?  Satan wins if this kind of fear goes on.  This is what he wants, separation, with nobody communicating only letting the problem marinate longer and longer.  I can’t help but think of the scripture, “cowards have their place in the lake of fire…” paraphrasing of course.

8 “But the cowardly, unbelieving, abominable, murderers, sexually immoral, sorcerers, idolaters, and all liars shall have their part in the lake which burns with fire and brimstone, which is the second death.” – Revelation 21:8 NKJV

God’s people are not cowards.  Is this in context? Out of context?  You be the judge… I can handle it either way.

Talking about each other, rather than to each other, is such a waste of time. It will be an amazing day when we mature to a place where we can be completely transparent and okay with someone else’s perspective that is completely contrary to our own view.  Think of it, love, in total disagreement.  Thoughts discussed with honor, dignity and care for the other individual, without insecurely having to defend one’s own belief and writing the apposing view/individual off completely with the “them vs. us” mentality.  Healthy discussions, so enriching and stimulating.

Going after agreement, disagreement, truth, honor, compassion and dignity all at once is totally possible, when everyone in the room is capable of being an adult.  Let’s grow up.  I have much room to grow personally, yet, hopeful and excited for the possibility of more. There’s so much more.

Super expectant for the possibility of growth and maturity taking place in the days ahead. Yay Holy Ghost helper! Help us Your people. In Y’shua’s name. Amen. 🙂

PS – You’re free to not amen that prayer if you disagree. It’s really okay. It’s super okay. 😉

Agape.

Any thoughts, comments, ideas?  You’re more than welcome to share freely and openly.  I triple dog dare you… that’s right, the TRIPLE DOG DARE….. lol

Just remember, you’re not a coward.  If nothing else, I hope you’re entertained and amused.  Plus, now you have more to talk about with them. 😉

Communication. What a trip.

Debunking Donald Trump’s so called “Media Scandals”

It’s worth watching this video to learn what Trump actually stated, rather than what has been gossiped or slandered about him.  Please think for yourself, look into what was actually stated, instead of what someone else said he said.  In this day and age gossip and slander spread far and wide through media in all forms.  We the people need to be able to clearly, logically think for ourselves, ask questions and get the truth of the matter.  The video put together here goes through all the major accusations against Donald Trump and lays out very plainly what’s been said by him, mainstream media and the difference there in.

It’s amazing how the telephone game gets played in our mainstream media – the he said, she said game. Rumors and slander stem from such miscommunication points.

In watching this video, I wanted to check the source of what the reporter is communicating. He touched on Trump’s comments regarding “illegal immigrants” coming across the boarder (some of them being criminals and rapists). Trump was pointing out a problem based on his conversations with border patrol and referencing an article by Fusion. An article by Fusion communicates, “80% of central american women crossing Mexico to the United States are sexually assaulted/raped. (but the actual numbers are impossible to know.)” These numbers are up about 20% from Amnesty International’s 2010 stats.

Trump was merely bringing this major problem to light, not making a racist remark. Personally, I had no idea 80% of women attempting to come to the USA were being raped, until Trump brought the problem up.

Something needs to be done about such abuses. May the Lord bring justice and turn the hearts of the people doing such things towards Him in repentance. Come Lord Jesus, come.

There’s a lot of content with actual verifiable facts, addressing the major arguments against Trump. I’ll post in the comments, the article referencing the rape statistics taking place towards women trying to come to the United States. Sobering. What are your thoughts?

Debunking the so called “Scandals” of Donald Trump:

  • Donald Trump running for President
  • Donald Trump on Illegal Immigration
  • Donald Trump and 4 Bankruptcies
  • Donald Trump’s favorite Bible Verse
  • Donald Trump suggesting journalists are bleeding
  • Donald Trump on Muslims
  • Donald Trump and Vladimir Putin
  • Donald Trump accused of raping his ex-wife
  • Donald Trump’s comment about dating his daughter Ivanka Trump
  • Donald Trump having Oprah as his VP
  • Donald Trump’s comments on Rosie Odonnel
  • and more..

May this nation back to Jesus Christ and righteousness.  Father in Heaven, we need Your help.  Please have Your way in our lives, let Your Word be proclaimed in spirit and truth. In Jesus name. Amen.

Donald Trump, Cyrus Anointing & America’s Vote

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World For Jesus Ministries, Nita Johnson shares what she believes the LORD is saying about Donald J. Trump and his run at the Presidency.  Lance Wallnau is also communicating similar ideas regarding Donald Trump being a Cyrus.

Listen to what Nita Johnson believes about Donald Trump and the future of this nation.
http://www.worldforjesus.org/medialog.php?ID=423

In this 20 minute talk she shares why Donald J. Trump is God’s answer to prayer regarding turning this nation around.  She mentions Donald Trump’s Enemies – The Pope, other countries, the media, the New World Order, and so on. She also says that all the other candidates will go along with the New World Order’s plans. Donald Trump is the only candidate anointed to turn the ship around. The New World Order believes that Hillary is going to slide into home plate easily…. unless we pray. Unless we pray everyday for the LORD’s choice to be elected.

She likens Donald Trump to King Cyrus in the Old Testament.  She also talks about his salvation and relationship to Christ as it currently stands (you’ll have to listen to find out what she thinks).  Nita encourages the people to focus on what he has done and how God has anointed  Donald Trump.  He has the skills and talent to turn this nation around.  She also encourages believers to pray for protection over Donald Trump’s life.  Nita says, the elite will not hesitate to take his life.  Donald Trump needs prayer.  He needs prayer now. Even if you don’t agree with who he is or what he represents, you can pray for protection over his life.

I’d love to hear your comments on this 20 minute talk as you care to share.

God bless you and God bless this nation.

YHWH please let Your choice be elected in the White House this coming election.  I ask for protection over all the lives in this campaign and race.  Let all darkness in this Presidential race be exposed.  Let there be no darkness in this land. Let there be light in all things.  Help this nation turn to You Father in Heaven.  Let this nation stop its fornication, adultery, sexual perversion, addictions, and wicked ways.  Let the people desire purity, holiness and righteousness. Let people of character and substance arise in the earth and this nation of the United States of America.  We NEED YOU LORD!!!  Break in and visit Your people and this Nation, I ask in Jesus name. Thank You!  Amen.

Here’s an interesting video I came across recently.

Leo Buscaglia on Loving Relationships

I love this guys enthusiasm for life, people and love. It’s been a while since I’ve listened to or read his perspective on life.

“Vulnerability is one of the most essential thing for loving and relationships.”

“To be open you need to be vulnerable. You’re not weak by being soft.”

He breaks down the purpose of relationship.

What’s your favorite quote?
What did you learn?
Were you inspired? How?

Have a bold day!

Matthew 18. Where Have You Gone?

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15 “Moreover if your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone. If he hears you, you have gained your brother. 16 “But if he will not hear, take with you one or two more, that ‘by the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established.’ 17 “And if he refuses to hear them, tell [it] to the church. But if he refuses even to hear the church, let him be to you like a heathen and a tax collector.
Matthew 18:15-17

When was the last time I went to my brother or anyone for that matter and expressly communicated, “Bro, Friend, Neighbor, you sinned against me and this is how you did it.  Can we change or prevent this from happening again?  It doesn’t feel very good.”  I have done this with people from time to time as I’ve become cognizant of an injustice committed against me.  We all know when we’ve been robbed of something because it hurts, it costs us something and we want it rectified.  The challenge is to not go off and tell the rest of the country about the injustice committed against you because in the end, nobody can do anything about it; other than the two people in conflict.

Moving beyond that simple notion of going to an individual and communicating an issue between the two of us, when was the last I got someone else involved in a matter?  There was a time an individual cut me out of a business deal.  I asked if another individual could join us in the meeting to figure out how to go our separate ways, as at this point we’ve had several conversations back and forth.  My request was denied.  The individual I was attempting to work things out with refused the mutual friend to get involved and hear both sides of the issue.  This is one time specifically Matthew 18 was attempted. I’m sure there’s more situations where getting another involved in a dispute has occurred, but it’s a VERY rare occasion it seems.  It would be nice if this were not the case, simply because there’s wisdom in a multitude of counselors… assuming all parties involved have ears to hear.

The last step is to bring it before the Church.  The idea and definition of what “Church” is in the Western mindset is completely distorted from what is depicted in the Gospels.  I couldn’t imagine this last part ever taking place at a mega “Church.”  Imagine there’s an issue taking place and one individual is not receiving what the others are communicating, “Up, you know what that means, Sunday service before 20,000 people we’re going to bring this before them so everyone will know, YOU’RE BAAAAAD! EVIL.”  I’m exaggerating a bit but you get the idea.  Basically, we’re to bring this before the people in our lives that are believers, part of the Bride of Christ and speak into our lives fairly regularly.  I’m sure you’re familiar with the term, “intervention.”  This is when someone is addicted to alcohol, they’re in denial, so everyone close to them get together and confront them on their addiction.  This example seems to be the most fitting for what Jesus is communicating in Matthew 18 regarding bring it to the Church body.

If I or we became a people that began to implement this format into our relationships, families and lives, it would greatly increase our connection with others.  I believe this to be true because when done properly we usually win our brother back into proper relationship.

  1. It demonstrates we care enough about someone to point out how they have or are hurting us.  Much of the time we’re not aware there’s even a problem because we’re so self absorbed as humans.
  2. Communicating the issue allows the individual at fault to “learn” and “mature.” Letting it go and not saying anything leaves a missed opportunity for character development to take place for those involved.
  3. Generally, I’ve discovered when someone has fault against me or I have fault against them and the situation comes to light or is confronted; my relationship with that individual deepens.  It might be painful to confront initially, but on the other side of working through the situation – love and respect generally are the fruit developed.
  4. In the absence of communication, it gives way to much room for the enemy.
    Suspicion, resentment, anger, division, bitterness and unforgiveness are some examples of fruit we become susceptible to without healthy communication.  The environment can become stail and stagnant.  Speaking openly about a matter with another or in a small group of people is very healthy, in most cases.  I say in “most cases” because there’s always the unique situation that requires more wisdom on how to approach a matter tactfully with the right people.  Ultimately, when we bring a matter to another person who has the ability to remain “reasonable” we will win them in the sense of gained our brother, friend or neighbor back.  The more we become transparent, speaking openly, keeping in mind we are all fallible individuals the greater sense of life and connection we can offer the people around us.  Jesus came so that we might have life and life abundant.  His teaching here in Matthew offers practical tools to maintaining an abundant life.

What if we all began to follow this model and implemented it into our lives?  What if we stopped sweeping things under the rug and simply cleaned up issues right the first time?  What if we began confronting issues head on?  Could you imagine how much stronger and powerful all of our individual relationships, families and churches would be?  How mature we would become?  One problem/challenge in the world today and the Church is a gross lack of maturity.  We need each other’s feedback, care and communication to truly mature and grow as individuals.  Apart from confrontation, everyone simply spins their wheels in the mud not developing in a more profound way.

I’m in your life and you’re in my life (the people in your life), as each other’s character development program.  The sooner we begin to realize this fact the better.  God’s seen fit to bring lives of individuals together for the express intent of mining out the gold inside all of us.  He uses people for the mining process to complete that purpose.  Don’t run from God’s process, but embrace it, follow it.  There’s life in His process because He’s faithful to complete the GOOD work He’s begun in us.

Let’s begin to seek connection in truth, humility and forgiveness towards one another.  Jesus is worth it.  Love boldly.  Love courageously.

Gossip Nation According to the Holy Bible. Be Beautiful.

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Gossip Nation.

: information about the behavior and personal lives of other people
: information about the lives of famous people
: a person who often talks about the private details of other people’s lives

13 A gossip betrays a confidence, but a trustworthy person keeps a secret.
[Proverbs 11:13 NIV]

28 A perverse person stirs up conflict, and a gossip separates close friends.
[Proverbs 16:28 NIV]

8 The words of a gossip are like choice morsels; they go down to the inmost parts. [Proverbs 18:8 NIV]

19 A gossip betrays a confidence; so avoid anyone who talks too much.
[Proverbs 20:19 NIV]

20 Without wood a fire goes out; without a gossip a quarrel dies down. … 22 The words of a gossip are like choice morsels; they go down to the inmost parts.
[Proverbs 26:20, 22 NIV]

20 For I am afraid that when I come I may not find you as I want you to be, and you may not find me as you want me to be. I fear that there may be discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, slander, gossip, arrogance and disorder. [2 Corinthians 12:20 NIV]

28 Furthermore, just as they did not think it worthwhile to retain the knowledge of God, so God gave them over to a depraved mind, so that they do what ought not to be done. 29 They have become filled with every kind of wickedness, evil, greed and depravity. They are full of envy, murder, strife, deceit and malice. They are gossips, 30 slanderers, God-haters, insolent, arrogant and boastful; they invent ways of doing evil; they disobey their parents; 31 they have no understanding, no fidelity, no love, no mercy. 32 Although they know God’s righteous decree that those who do such things deserve death, they not only continue to do these very things but also approve of those who practice them.
[Romans 1:28-32 NIV]

13 And besides they learn [to be] idle, wandering about from house to house, and not only idle but also gossips and busybodies, saying things which they ought not.
[1 Timothy 5:13 NKJV]

WHAT IF…
What if we could live in a world where creative ideas were discussed?  Then what if we took those ideas and rather than letting them fall to the ground we believed in them to the extent that a reality was established of these good ideas?  Where people came together to accomplish goals surrounded by an idea to make the world a little bit better for you and for me?  What if gossip became something that was disdained so much that conversation simply stopped when an individual lost sight of the more important direction of thought, such as an idea or ideas of how to implement good into the earth? Could we begin to take actions in such a way, that good ideas were coveted in everyday meetings and conversation with the people we surround ourselves by?  What if we simply began asking better questions, higher questions, rather than subjugating ourselves to the idle boring chatter and dull questions about other people’s lives?  Imagine a world where we begin working together in such a way that the “powerful people” were seen as those not concerned about the details of others lives for the sake of filling time space, but rather those concerned about the well being of others near and far?  Neighbor and Stranger.  Friend and Foreigner.

Our words shape worlds and the people there in.  Shape my world with your ideas, conversation and action: in such a way it becomes a “Wonderful Life” and I’ll do the same for you….

Deal?

You’re capable of more than you realize.  Your good ideas can become.

Now begin to believe….

You’re beautiful.  Be beautiful.